Feelings & Crushes: Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster

What’s Going On?

During puberty, your brain and hormones start working together in new ways, and suddenly you might notice someone’s laugh, hairstyle, or just… everything about them. Crushes are a mix of emotional attraction (wanting to be close to someone) and sometimes physical attraction (finding them cute or appealing).

You might have a crush on someone you know well, a friend-of-a-friend, or even a celebrity you’ve never met. Some crushes are intense but short-lived, while others can last for years.

Why Crushes Feel So Big

Blame dopamine and oxytocin — brain chemicals that make your heart race, palms sweat, and brain obsess over that one person’s text reply. Crushes can make you feel giddy, nervous, or even tongue-tied. Totally normal.

Myths, Busted

Myth: A crush means you’re “in love.”
Fact: Crushes are feelings of attraction, not the same as deep, long-term love.

Myth: You have to act on every crush.
Fact: Sometimes it’s better to enjoy the feelings without turning them into action — especially if the person is unavailable or not interested.

Handling Crushes in a Healthy Way

• Enjoy it, but keep perspective. Crushes are part of growing up, but they’re not the whole story.

• Respect boundaries. If your crush isn’t interested, accept it without taking it personally.

• Talk to friends or write it out. Sometimes getting your feelings out helps you understand them better.

Final Word

Crushes are like the seasoning on life’s main dish — fun, exciting, and sometimes a little overwhelming. They’re part of learning about your emotions, relationships, and yourself.