How to Talk About Boundaries

What Are Boundaries?

Boundaries are limits you set for yourself about what you’re comfortable with — physically, emotionally, and socially. They can cover anything from hugging to sharing private information.

Why They Matter

Setting boundaries helps you protect your comfort, safety, and mental health. It also makes relationships more respectful. If you know your limits and communicate them, it’s easier to avoid awkward or harmful situations.

Myths, Busted

• Myth: Saying “no” makes you mean or rude.
  Fact: It makes you honest and self-respecting.

• Myth: Boundaries are only about physical touch.
  Fact: They also include time, personal space, emotional sharing, and online privacy.

How to Communicate Boundaries

1. Be clear and direct. “I don’t like being tickled” works better than hoping someone will guess.

2. Use “I” statements. “I feel uncomfortable when…” puts the focus on your feelings, not blame.

3. Repeat if necessary. Some people need reminders.

4. Respect others’ boundaries, too.

Tips for Teens

• Practice with friends or family in safe situations.

• Don’t apologize for setting a limit.

• Remember that boundaries can change over time.

Final Word

Think of boundaries as your personal user manual: “Here’s how to treat me.” Knowing and sharing yours makes every relationship healthier.